What My Wife Is Worth (Essential Mindset #13)

My partner is worth my best recovery efforts.-2

Essential Mindset #13 in Life After Lust (2017). From the chapter “What My Wife is Worth.” Share if you agree.

Learn many other ways to fight for your partner’s heart, check out my new book Life After Lust: Stories & Strategies For Sex & Pornography Addiction Recovery.

Forest Benedict, LMFT, SATP, is the author of Life After Lust: Stories & Strategies for Sex & Pornography Addiction Recovery. Please follow Forest on the following platforms: NewsletterYoutube, BlogTwitter, Facebook, LinkedInInstagramPinterest, Google+StumbleUpon, and SHARE this valuable content with others. Thank you!

 

 

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In Case You Forgot…

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The Heart of Man – Coming This Thursday ONLY

As some of you know there is a powerful new movie about lust/sex addiction coming out in theaters this Thursday (a one day event) called The Heart of Man. It is a faith-based movie. I have recommended it to many people and have my tickets. Here’s the info to find a showing near you:

http://heartofmanmovie.com

Here’s the new trailer:

If you watch it, I’d love to know what you think!

Forest Benedict, LMFT, SATP, is the author of Life After Lust: Stories & Strategies for Sex & Pornography Addiction Recovery. If you benefited from this article, please “follow” me on this blog and on Twitter, “like” me on Facebook, subscribe to my Youtube channel, and SHARE this article and blog with others. Thank you!

One Year Ago Today: Envisioning Life After Lust

One year later

One year ago today I envisioned my book Life After Lust. Starting with the simple idea of collecting and organizing articles, I set out on this creative journey, unsure where this road would lead me.

Who could’ve imagined that today, exactly a year later, my book would have over 1,900 copies in circulation, that 17 new participants in the SATP program would begin studying it as their textbook, that it would be added to our LifeSTAR program, that it would be so generously endorsed by many of my heroes in this field, and that the book would become a beacon of hope to so many people.

THIS IS A GOD-SIZED STORY….and I am so grateful to be along for the ride.

It all began on Facebook, one year ago today…

August 21, 2016: “Today I had a simple idea for my first published book….this will not take too long so I’m squeezing it into my busy schedule.” That same day I shared the Robin Sharma quote “Dream big. Start small. Start now.”

August 22, 2016 – “Time to follow inspiration and take a break from Facebook. If I can binge watch a Netflix series then I can binge write my first book and get it published ASAP. That’s my commitment (besides work related sharing). Message me if you need to talk.”

August 25, 2016 – “These days I’m working hard to finish writing and publishing my first book. Today I finished my Introduction. Now, roughly 90% of the book is written. This will be an inspiring resource for those struggling with sexual addiction. I pray it helps many.”

August 26, 2016 – “I totaled the pages of my book and it’s just under 100 pages. It will not be much longer than that. Still, that’s pretty awesome!” (Funny, I had NO idea!)

August 29, 2016 – “PLEASE VOTE: My new book is divided into 3 sections. Let me know which sequence you like best:

1) Attitude, Action, & Adventure
2) Mindset, Mastery, & Mission
3) Passion, Practice, & Purpose

August 29, 2016 – “PLEASE VOTE – I’m working on my book title. The book is an organized collection of articles aimed at inspiring individuals to take their recovery to the next level. Here are the options so far:

1. “A Passionate Recovery: The Sexual Addict’s Uncommon Guide to Growth & Greatness”
2. “The Motivation Manual: Stories & Strategies to Strengthen Sexual Addict’s in Recovery”
3. “Life After Lust: The Sexual Addicts Uncommon Guide to Inspired Recovery”

August 29, 2016 – “Hammered out another chapter of my book last night on the drive home….getting closer to a completed rough draft!” (Called to Rise chapter originally written as the concluding chapter of the book).

After lots of work and editing and feedback and inspiration and prayer….

February 14, 2017 – “LOOK WHAT I FOUND ON AMAZON FOR PRE-ORDER!!!” (Kindle edition)

February 24, 2017 – “WHAT ARE THE CHANCES that the day my book comes out on Kindle is the same day I get a call from a local radio show wanting to interview me about my Vote for Love, Not Porn article I wrote for The Fresno Bee in June?”

March 20, 2017 – “In case you missed the news….my paperback is ready on Amazon!”

March 21, 2017 – “WHOA! My paperback jumped to #1 in the Sexual Health Recovery category on Amazon! Grateful!”

Life After Lust Hot New Release

March 21, 2017 – “Honored to have my book “competing” with this amazing book!”

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After lots of surprising conversations, vlogs, radio shows, speaking and writing opportunities, witnessing the inspiration of others, new ideas, and moments of personal clarity and growth, here we are one year later.

August 21, 2017 – “I’m grateful for this amazing journey and excited about what lies ahead. As a friend told me recently, this is only the beginning. Thank you to all who have supported me along the way!” (click here to see how the future unfolds)

Hoping this message inspires others to reach for the stars.

All things are possible for those who believe.

Forest Benedict, LMFT, SATP, is the author of Life After Lust: Stories & Strategies for Sex & Pornography Addiction Recovery. If you benefited from this article, please “follow” me on this blog and on Twitter, “like” me on Facebook, subscribe to my Youtube channel, and SHARE this article and blog with others. Thank you!

Where Will Recovery Lead You? (Life After Lust VLOG)

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Recovery is about much more than just leaving addiction. It is also about the life you replace your addiction with. Click the link below to watch my newest VLOG episode about where the recovery lifestyle has led me.

WHERE WILL RECOVERY LEAD YOU? Life After Lust VLOG

I wonder, where will recovery lead you?

If you’re willing, take a minute to post about the experiences you have had as a result of your personal recovery journey. 

To subscribe to the Life After Lust Newsletter click here

To learn more about the inspirational new book Life After Lust, click here

Forest Benedict, LMFT, SATP, is the author of Life After Lust: Stories & Strategies for Sex & Pornography Addiction Recovery. If you benefited from this article, please “follow” me on this blog and on Twitter, “like” me on Facebook, subscribe to my Youtube channel, and SHARE this article and blog with others. Thank you!

How to be Holy

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Some powerful concepts for us to meditate on…

“If you feel the call of the spirit, then be holy with all your soul, with all your heart, and with all your strength. If, however, because of human weakness, you cannot be holy, then be perfect with all your soul, with all your heart, and with all your strength.
 
But if you cannot be perfect because of the vanity of your life, then be good with all your soul…Yet, if you cannot be good because of the trickery of the Evil One, then be wise with all your soul…
 
If, in the end, you can neither be holy, nor perfect, nor good, nor wise because of the weight of your sins, then carry this weight before God and surrender your life to his divine mercy.
 
If you do this, without bitterness, with all humility, and with a joyous spirit due to the tenderness of a God who loves the sinful and ungrateful, then you will begin to feel what it is to be wise, you will learn what it is to be good, you will slowly aspire to be perfect, and finally you will long to be holy.”
 
-Peter van Breeman, Let All God’s Glory Through (From a Ruthless Trust by Brennan Manning)

Covenant Eyes Publishes “Called to Rise” (A Chapter from Life After Lust)

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Today Covenant Eyes published one of my favorite chapters from Life After Lust – Called to Rise. This is my first publication with Covenant Eyes and it is SUCH an honor. I have appreciated Covenant Eyes for years, using and promoting their porn-protecting products.

The timing couldn’t be more perfect….or ironic.

PERFECT because I just finished my free book promotion which added many new 5 star reviews to the Amazon book listing.

IRONIC because I just started my hiatus from Facebook so I’ll be relying on others to share this within their networks (my blog does auto-post to Facebook).

When I read my chapter in the Covenant Eyes blog this morning, it brought me to tears. This is a powerful chapter, challenging and inviting readers to rise up and live out life after lust. I hope and pray that many will be impacted and the ripple effects will be eternal.

TO READ “CALLED TO RISE: OVERCOMING SEXUAL ADDICTION” CLICK HERE

Forest Benedict, LMFT, SATP, is the author of Life After Lust: Stories & Strategies for Sex & Pornography Addiction Recovery. If you benefited from this article, please “follow” me on this blog and on Twitter, “like” me on Facebook, subscribe to my Youtube channel, and SHARE this article and blog with others. Thank you!

Help Us Reach 1000 FREE Downloads of Life After Lust (1 Day Left)

Life After Lust Free Promotion

As I shared in today’s VLOG, the Father’s Day FREE ebook promotion is massively successful so far with just over 646 downloads in less than 4 days!

With one more day of this deal remaining, will you SHARE this with others to help reach the goal of 1000 downloads by Sunday night?

Get your FREE copy today and help spread the message of healing. Also, if this book has impacted you, please take 5 minutes to leave a review (every star helps)!

Click here to download your FREE copy of Life After Lust

 

CHECK OF SOME RECENT AMAZON REVIEWS:

5.0 out of 5 stars – Great book for Porn/Sex Addiction Recovery
By Ralph R.on June 17, 2017
Format: Kindle Edition|Verified Purchase
Great book for sex/porn addiction recovery! I am a licensed psychotherapist who specializes in sex/porn addiction recovery. This book has pragmatic and powerful steps which guides the person to develop a solid recovery. It is easy to read and too the point, not overfilled with too many details or micro-analysis. I have just included this book as one of the required readings & discussion topics for groups and individuals who I treat for porn/sex addiction recovery.  I love the way the book is structured with points and easy to understand.

5.0 out of 5 stars – Insightful and very helpful
ByTRKon June 16, 2017
Format: Paperback|Verified Purchase
Forest is insightful as he writes about his vast experience counseling others who struggle with addiction. I especially appreciate the chapter on self-care. Thank you Forest for putting it in a book that I am able to reference when I am struggling.

5.0 out of 5 stars – As a psychologist and couples therapist, I highly recommend this book to everyone who is struggling with sexual addiction.
ByJonice Webb, Ph.Don May 24, 2017
Format: Paperback
I’m a psychologist who specializes in couples treatment. I am very relieved to see a thoughtful, intelligent and caring book about this topic that most folks shy away from. Forest Benedict breaks through all the shame that I’ve seen my clients experience, and talks about this difficult subject with great care and attention to the whole person, including his or her childhood, committed relationship, and parenting. The book is filled with helpful guidance and support and clarity, as it walks people struggling with sexual addiction through the healing process. “Secrets are the driving force of sexual addiction.” and “What you fear most will heal you.” The author talks in easy to understand prose that will keep readers connected. Then, at the end, he offers a 52-week recovery process that could guide any struggling person through, with or without the help of a therapist. I highly recommend this book to anyone who is struggling with sexual addiction.

Forest Benedict, LMFT, SATP, is the author of Life After Lust: Stories & Strategies for Sex & Pornography Addiction Recovery. If you benefited from this article, please “follow” me on this blog and on Twitter, “like” me on Facebook, subscribe to my Youtube channel, and SHARE this article and blog with others. Thank you!

Free Father’s Day Promotion – Life After Lust (Kindle)

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Help me get Life After Lust into the hands of all father’s (and mothers)…for details on this exciting promotion check out my recent VLOG.

WHAT THE EXPERTS ARE SAYING ABOUT LIFE AFTER LUST:

“Life After Lust is an honest and helpful read for those trapped in the fear and pain of pornography addiction. This book challenges men and women to take responsibility for their behavior, providing practical tools and next steps on their healing journey.” 
CRAIG GROSS, Founder of XXXchurch.com

“Life After Lust is an excellent resource for those wanting freedom from pornography addiction. This book also prepares men and women to fight for love in their personal relationships while working to change the world we live in.” 
CLAY OLSEN, CEO and Co-Founder of Fight the New Drug

“Forest Benedict is a skilled writer whose lyrical phrases delight and uplift this intense topic. Addiction-savvy and trauma-informed, Benedict never lets up on his fierce, loving message: Yes, you can do this! You will have to work hard to beat sex addiction, but I’ve done it, it’s worth it, and I’m right here with you! Life After Lust is a must-read for any man, woman or loving family member who needs unrelenting optimism and cutting-edge strategies that really work on the road to healthy sexuality.”

STACI SPROUT, LICSW, CSAT, author of Naked in Public: A Memoir of Recovery From Sex Addiction and Other Temporary Insanities

“Forest Benedict’s Life After Lust is a personalized and important contribution to the field of sexual health. He shares his personal story of recovery from porn addiction in a way that both educates and motivates the reader.” 
ROBERT WEISS, LCSW, CSAT-S, Intimacy Disorder Specialist, Author of Out of the Doghouse: A Step-by-Step Relationship-Saving Guide for Men Caught Cheating 
One man who heard me on a recent podcast shared that he has never had anything speak to him so clearly and so deeply as my book. It is an honor knowing that Life After Lust is impacting people and helping them heal.

Will you help me get the word out about this free promotion? May Life After Lust continue being a catalyst of change in the lives of many.

Gratefully,
Forest

Let’s Talk Trauma & Addiction – 2 New Podcasts

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Often those of us in recovery have survived a trauma-filled past. Whether it’s in the form of physical, sexual, or emotional abuse, our past pains have a long-term impact on our lives and relationships.

This was certainly the case for me….and I’m starting to talk more openly about it these days.

In my two most recent podcast interviews, I had the opportunity to talk about my past pain in depth. If you’ve wondered about the link between trauma and addiction, I invite you to listen in:

Interview #1: Making an Addict podcast with sex addiction therapist D.J. Burr

Interview #2: Pure Sex Radio Podcast with Jonathan Daugherty of Be Broken Ministries
(Christian-based, much more trauma focused)

I hope you find these interviews enlightening and encouraging as you pursue your personal path from pain to purpose.

Forest Benedict, LMFT, SATP, is the author of Life After Lust: Stories & Strategies for Sex & Pornography Addiction Recovery. If you benefited from this article, please “follow” me on this blog and on Twitter, “like” me on Facebook, subscribe to my Youtube channel, and SHARE this article and blog with others. Thank you!