How to be Holy

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Some powerful concepts for us to meditate on…

“If you feel the call of the spirit, then be holy with all your soul, with all your heart, and with all your strength. If, however, because of human weakness, you cannot be holy, then be perfect with all your soul, with all your heart, and with all your strength.
 
But if you cannot be perfect because of the vanity of your life, then be good with all your soul…Yet, if you cannot be good because of the trickery of the Evil One, then be wise with all your soul…
 
If, in the end, you can neither be holy, nor perfect, nor good, nor wise because of the weight of your sins, then carry this weight before God and surrender your life to his divine mercy.
 
If you do this, without bitterness, with all humility, and with a joyous spirit due to the tenderness of a God who loves the sinful and ungrateful, then you will begin to feel what it is to be wise, you will learn what it is to be good, you will slowly aspire to be perfect, and finally you will long to be holy.”
 
-Peter van Breeman, Let All God’s Glory Through (From a Ruthless Trust by Brennan Manning)

Covenant Eyes Publishes “Called to Rise” (A Chapter from Life After Lust)

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Today Covenant Eyes published one of my favorite chapters from Life After Lust – Called to Rise. This is my first publication with Covenant Eyes and it is SUCH an honor. I have appreciated Covenant Eyes for years, using and promoting their porn-protecting products.

The timing couldn’t be more perfect….or ironic.

PERFECT because I just finished my free book promotion which added many new 5 star reviews to the Amazon book listing.

IRONIC because I just started my hiatus from Facebook so I’ll be relying on others to share this within their networks (my blog does auto-post to Facebook).

When I read my chapter in the Covenant Eyes blog this morning, it brought me to tears. This is a powerful chapter, challenging and inviting readers to rise up and live out life after lust. I hope and pray that many will be impacted and the ripple effects will be eternal.

TO READ “CALLED TO RISE: OVERCOMING SEXUAL ADDICTION” CLICK HERE

Forest Benedict, LMFT, SATP, is the author of Life After Lust: Stories & Strategies for Sex & Pornography Addiction Recovery. If you benefited from this article, please “follow” me on this blog and on Twitter, “like” me on Facebook, subscribe to my Youtube channel, and SHARE this article and blog with others. Thank you!

Help Us Reach 1000 FREE Downloads of Life After Lust (1 Day Left)

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As I shared in today’s VLOG, the Father’s Day FREE ebook promotion is massively successful so far with just over 646 downloads in less than 4 days!

With one more day of this deal remaining, will you SHARE this with others to help reach the goal of 1000 downloads by Sunday night?

Get your FREE copy today and help spread the message of healing. Also, if this book has impacted you, please take 5 minutes to leave a review (every star helps)!

Click here to download your FREE copy of Life After Lust

 

CHECK OF SOME RECENT AMAZON REVIEWS:

5.0 out of 5 stars – Great book for Porn/Sex Addiction Recovery
By Ralph R.on June 17, 2017
Format: Kindle Edition|Verified Purchase
Great book for sex/porn addiction recovery! I am a licensed psychotherapist who specializes in sex/porn addiction recovery. This book has pragmatic and powerful steps which guides the person to develop a solid recovery. It is easy to read and too the point, not overfilled with too many details or micro-analysis. I have just included this book as one of the required readings & discussion topics for groups and individuals who I treat for porn/sex addiction recovery.  I love the way the book is structured with points and easy to understand.

5.0 out of 5 stars – Insightful and very helpful
ByTRKon June 16, 2017
Format: Paperback|Verified Purchase
Forest is insightful as he writes about his vast experience counseling others who struggle with addiction. I especially appreciate the chapter on self-care. Thank you Forest for putting it in a book that I am able to reference when I am struggling.

5.0 out of 5 stars – As a psychologist and couples therapist, I highly recommend this book to everyone who is struggling with sexual addiction.
ByJonice Webb, Ph.Don May 24, 2017
Format: Paperback
I’m a psychologist who specializes in couples treatment. I am very relieved to see a thoughtful, intelligent and caring book about this topic that most folks shy away from. Forest Benedict breaks through all the shame that I’ve seen my clients experience, and talks about this difficult subject with great care and attention to the whole person, including his or her childhood, committed relationship, and parenting. The book is filled with helpful guidance and support and clarity, as it walks people struggling with sexual addiction through the healing process. “Secrets are the driving force of sexual addiction.” and “What you fear most will heal you.” The author talks in easy to understand prose that will keep readers connected. Then, at the end, he offers a 52-week recovery process that could guide any struggling person through, with or without the help of a therapist. I highly recommend this book to anyone who is struggling with sexual addiction.

Forest Benedict, LMFT, SATP, is the author of Life After Lust: Stories & Strategies for Sex & Pornography Addiction Recovery. If you benefited from this article, please “follow” me on this blog and on Twitter, “like” me on Facebook, subscribe to my Youtube channel, and SHARE this article and blog with others. Thank you!

Free Father’s Day Promotion – Life After Lust (Kindle)

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Help me get Life After Lust into the hands of all father’s (and mothers)…for details on this exciting promotion check out my recent VLOG.

WHAT THE EXPERTS ARE SAYING ABOUT LIFE AFTER LUST:

“Life After Lust is an honest and helpful read for those trapped in the fear and pain of pornography addiction. This book challenges men and women to take responsibility for their behavior, providing practical tools and next steps on their healing journey.” 
CRAIG GROSS, Founder of XXXchurch.com

“Life After Lust is an excellent resource for those wanting freedom from pornography addiction. This book also prepares men and women to fight for love in their personal relationships while working to change the world we live in.” 
CLAY OLSEN, CEO and Co-Founder of Fight the New Drug

“Forest Benedict is a skilled writer whose lyrical phrases delight and uplift this intense topic. Addiction-savvy and trauma-informed, Benedict never lets up on his fierce, loving message: Yes, you can do this! You will have to work hard to beat sex addiction, but I’ve done it, it’s worth it, and I’m right here with you! Life After Lust is a must-read for any man, woman or loving family member who needs unrelenting optimism and cutting-edge strategies that really work on the road to healthy sexuality.”

STACI SPROUT, LICSW, CSAT, author of Naked in Public: A Memoir of Recovery From Sex Addiction and Other Temporary Insanities

“Forest Benedict’s Life After Lust is a personalized and important contribution to the field of sexual health. He shares his personal story of recovery from porn addiction in a way that both educates and motivates the reader.” 
ROBERT WEISS, LCSW, CSAT-S, Intimacy Disorder Specialist, Author of Out of the Doghouse: A Step-by-Step Relationship-Saving Guide for Men Caught Cheating 
One man who heard me on a recent podcast shared that he has never had anything speak to him so clearly and so deeply as my book. It is an honor knowing that Life After Lust is impacting people and helping them heal.

Will you help me get the word out about this free promotion? May Life After Lust continue being a catalyst of change in the lives of many.

Gratefully,
Forest

Let’s Talk Trauma & Addiction – 2 New Podcasts

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Often those of us in recovery have survived a trauma-filled past. Whether it’s in the form of physical, sexual, or emotional abuse, our past pains have a long-term impact on our lives and relationships.

This was certainly the case for me….and I’m starting to talk more openly about it these days.

In my two most recent podcast interviews, I had the opportunity to talk about my past pain in depth. If you’ve wondered about the link between trauma and addiction, I invite you to listen in:

Interview #1: Making an Addict podcast with sex addiction therapist D.J. Burr

Interview #2: Pure Sex Radio Podcast with Jonathan Daugherty of Be Broken Ministries
(Christian-based, much more trauma focused)

I hope you find these interviews enlightening and encouraging as you pursue your personal path from pain to purpose.

Forest Benedict, LMFT, SATP, is the author of Life After Lust: Stories & Strategies for Sex & Pornography Addiction Recovery. If you benefited from this article, please “follow” me on this blog and on Twitter, “like” me on Facebook, subscribe to my Youtube channel, and SHARE this article and blog with others. Thank you!

Forest Benedict on the Upcoming Carol the Coach Sex Addiction Radio Show

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I have the privilege of being interviewed in the upcoming Sexual Addiction: Strength, Hope, Recovery with Carol the Coach radio show, talking about my recovery and my new book Life After Lust! Click this link to listen on Monday at 6pm PST. I’ve been on this show in the past and it will be great to visit with Carol again. Please share this free listening opportunity with others.

Gratefully,
Forest
Forest Benedict, MA, SATP-C, LMFT, Clinical Director of LifeSTAR of the Central Valley. If you benefited from this article, please “follow” me on this blog and on Twitter, “like” me on Facebook, and SHARE this article and blog with others. Thank you!

Help This Video Go Viral – Dear Porn: A Father’s Letter

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I created this powerful video to challenge fathers (and all parents) to wake-up and engage in the battle to protect children from pornography. Please enjoy and share it with as many people as possible. This message is VERY important. Our children are depending on us.

CLICK HERE TO WATCH

Forest Benedict, MA, SATP-C, LMFT, Clinical Director of LifeSTAR of the Central Valley. If you benefited from this article, please “follow” me on this blog and on Twitter, “like” me on Facebook, and SHARE this article and blog with others. Thank you!

The Pursuit of Greatness

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In this season of my life I am fueled by great pursuits. As a newly published author, I am reaching to new heights, striving to make a significant splash in the world. That is why I love the recent message by Erwin McManus called The Drive for Greatness. Addressing this topic from a spiritual perspective, McManus challenges Christians to rise above the status quo. There is nothing Christian about living a mediocre existence. Instead, we can run our race as someone striving to win the prize. Seeking this type of excellence, we can achieve our potential and purpose.

Listen to this powerful message here (Starting at 39:30):

Forest Benedict, MA, SATP-C, LMFT, Clinical Director of LifeSTAR of the Central Valley. If you benefited from this article, please “follow” me on this blog and on Twitter, “like” me on Facebook, and SHARE this article and blog with others. Thank you!

EXCITING NEWS! My Book is Now in Paperback!

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EXCITING NEWS! My book Life After Lust: Stories & Strategies for Sex & Pornography Addiction Recovery is ready in paperback on Amazon! May this resource help and inspire many.

Want to watch the first moment I saw my book? If so, CLICK HERE

Be one of the first to order your copy of this ground-breaking new book that will help many.

Check out the powerful new book trailer based on a chapter of my book by clicking here.

Forest Benedict, MA, SATP-C, LMFT, Clinical Director of LifeSTAR of the Central Valley. If you benefited from this article, please “follow” me on this blog and on Twitter, “like” me on Facebook, and SHARE this article and blog with others. Thank you!