Running on Empty No More: Transform Your Relationships With Your Partner, Your Parents and Your Children (Book Recommendation)

Running on Empty No More has the potential to change the world, one relationship at a time.

I just finished a wonderful book I can’t wait to tell you about called Running on Empty No More: Transform Your Relationships With Your Partner, Your Parents and Your Children, by Dr Jonice Webb.

Running on Empty No More is an excellent book for anyone seeking healing in their most important relationships. The book is a fitting follow-up to her first book Running On Empty, providing practical strategies for those wondering about next steps in their recovery from Childhood Emotional Neglect. One thing I appreciate about the book is the author’s obvious care and compassion for the reader. She invites the reader to take some difficult steps in repairing relationships while being clear about when those choices could be unhealthy. I found the book refreshing in my personal journey, especially when the concept of forgiveness was addressed. As a parent, I cannot more highly recommend the section on learning to connect with children.

Running on Empty No More has the potential to change the world, one relationship at a time. I plan to share this book with those I love, recommend it to many of my clients, and add it to the addiction recovery program I lead. Whether you’re seeking tools for connecting with a partner, parent, or child, this book is for you.

Forest Benedict, LMFT, SATP, is the author of Life After Lust: Stories & Strategies for Sex & Pornography Addiction Recovery. Please follow Forest on the following platforms: NewsletterYoutubeBlogTwitterFacebookLinkedInInstagramPinterestGoogle+StumbleUpon, and SHARE this valuable content with others. Thank you!

 

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Talking to Young Kids About Porn: Resources for Parents

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The topic of protecting children from pornography is very important to me. Anyone who has read my book Life After Lust knows this. Today I had the opportunity to write further about this essential topic in my LifeSTAR article called When to Talk to Your Kids About Porn: It’s Earlier Than You Think.

The following quote answers this question:
“Experts in child abuse prevention and pornography addiction recovery advise parents to begin educating kids about online dangers as soon as they have access to the internet. This includes access from mobile devices owned by friends, family members, teachers, fellow students and babysitters.”
If you are a parent I urge you to invest a few minutes in reading the article. There are great resources available. As parents, we are not helpless against porn.
Forest Benedict, LMFT, SATP, is the author of Life After Lust: Stories & Strategies for Sex & Pornography Addiction Recovery. Please follow Forest on the following platforms: NewsletterYoutube, BlogTwitter, Facebook, LinkedInInstagramPinterest, Google+StumbleUpon, and SHARE this valuable content with others. Thank you!

Angry Birds & Killer Bees: Talking to Your Kids About Sex (Video Interview)

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Talking to kids about sex is an essential, yet difficult task for all parents. What complicates this challenge further is the advancement of technology and the early exposure to pornography that is rampant in our day and age.

Last year I had the privilege of interviewing Dr Todd Bowman, therapist and author of Angry Birds, Killer Bees: Talking to Your Kids About Sex, addressing this timely topic. This valuable interview is now a part of our SATP certification program and I am privileged to share it publicly today for the first time. Whether you are a parent yourself or plan to be, you’ll gain greatly from Dr Bowman’s expertise with this topic. I invite you to share this interview and Dr Bowman’s much-needed book with others (Subscribe here for future videos and vlogs).

Here’s the interview:

Please share with important message with others.

Forest Benedict, LMFT, SATP, is the author of Life After Lust: Stories & Strategies for Sex & Pornography Addiction Recovery. Please follow Forest on the following platforms: NewsletterYoutube, BlogTwitter, Facebook, LinkedInInstagramPinterest, Google+StumbleUpon, and SHARE this valuable content with others. Thank you!

 

 

Am I Screwing Up My Kids? (Thoughts from a Parent in Recovery) – VLOG

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The more I learn about the origins of sexual addiction, the more I see how factors in childhood play a significant role. This helps me understand myself as a recovering addict but as a parent this responsibility can be frightening. If you’ve ever wondered, like me, what impact your parenting may have on the future of your children, then check out my recent Life After Lust VLOG entitled “Am I Screwing Up My Kids (Thoughts from a Parent in Recovery).”

If you’ve read my book Life After Lust, you’ve seen that learning to parent well is another essential recovery skill. To learn more about the challenge to engage in proactive and intentional parenting check out the powerful video “Dear Porn: A Father’s Letter” (another chapter in Life After Lust).

May we all be empowered to be better parents as we learn from the mistakes of our parents and our own mistakes as well. There is hope for all of us on this journey, no matter how old our children may be.

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Forest Benedict, LMFT, SATP, is the author of Life After Lust: Stories & Strategies for Sex & Pornography Addiction Recovery. If you benefited from this article, please “follow” me on this blog and on Twitter, “like” me on Facebook, subscribe to my Youtube channel, and SHARE this article and blog with others. Thank you!

CEN & Sex Addiction: Dr Jonice Webb Interviews Forest Benedict, LMFT, SATP

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I’m SO excited to share my new interview with Dr Jonice Webb on the connection between childhood emotional neglect and sex addiction. 

Though this topic is extremely important it is often overlooked. Check out the new article  and please share it with others who will benefit. 
Here’s the article:
 
Gratefully,
Forest
Forest Benedict, LMFT, SATP, is the author of Life After Lust: Stories & Strategies for Sex & Pornography Addiction Recovery. If you benefited from this article, please “follow” me on this blog and on Twitter, “like” me on Facebook, subscribe to my Youtube channel, and SHARE this article and blog with others. Thank you!

Help Us Reach 1000 FREE Downloads of Life After Lust (1 Day Left)

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As I shared in today’s VLOG, the Father’s Day FREE ebook promotion is massively successful so far with just over 646 downloads in less than 4 days!

With one more day of this deal remaining, will you SHARE this with others to help reach the goal of 1000 downloads by Sunday night?

Get your FREE copy today and help spread the message of healing. Also, if this book has impacted you, please take 5 minutes to leave a review (every star helps)!

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CHECK OF SOME RECENT AMAZON REVIEWS:

5.0 out of 5 stars – Great book for Porn/Sex Addiction Recovery
By Ralph R.on June 17, 2017
Format: Kindle Edition|Verified Purchase
Great book for sex/porn addiction recovery! I am a licensed psychotherapist who specializes in sex/porn addiction recovery. This book has pragmatic and powerful steps which guides the person to develop a solid recovery. It is easy to read and too the point, not overfilled with too many details or micro-analysis. I have just included this book as one of the required readings & discussion topics for groups and individuals who I treat for porn/sex addiction recovery.  I love the way the book is structured with points and easy to understand.

5.0 out of 5 stars – Insightful and very helpful
ByTRKon June 16, 2017
Format: Paperback|Verified Purchase
Forest is insightful as he writes about his vast experience counseling others who struggle with addiction. I especially appreciate the chapter on self-care. Thank you Forest for putting it in a book that I am able to reference when I am struggling.

5.0 out of 5 stars – As a psychologist and couples therapist, I highly recommend this book to everyone who is struggling with sexual addiction.
ByJonice Webb, Ph.Don May 24, 2017
Format: Paperback
I’m a psychologist who specializes in couples treatment. I am very relieved to see a thoughtful, intelligent and caring book about this topic that most folks shy away from. Forest Benedict breaks through all the shame that I’ve seen my clients experience, and talks about this difficult subject with great care and attention to the whole person, including his or her childhood, committed relationship, and parenting. The book is filled with helpful guidance and support and clarity, as it walks people struggling with sexual addiction through the healing process. “Secrets are the driving force of sexual addiction.” and “What you fear most will heal you.” The author talks in easy to understand prose that will keep readers connected. Then, at the end, he offers a 52-week recovery process that could guide any struggling person through, with or without the help of a therapist. I highly recommend this book to anyone who is struggling with sexual addiction.

Forest Benedict, LMFT, SATP, is the author of Life After Lust: Stories & Strategies for Sex & Pornography Addiction Recovery. If you benefited from this article, please “follow” me on this blog and on Twitter, “like” me on Facebook, subscribe to my Youtube channel, and SHARE this article and blog with others. Thank you!

How Paying Attention Protects Our Children from Porn

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In my recent interview with Lisa Shanklin of Educate Empower Kids, we focused on one of the topics emphasized in my book Life After Lust – protecting children from pornography. In the chapter entitled “How Paying Attention Protects Our Children from Porn” and in this interview, I suggested 4 critical ways that parents can pay attention to their children, thereby protecting them from pornography.

Check out the article and the book for more information.

For a powerful video with additional suggestions for parents, click here.

Forest Benedict, MA, SATP-C, LMFT, Clinical Director of LifeSTAR of the Central Valley. If you benefited from this article, please “follow” me on this blog and on Twitter, “like” me on Facebook, and SHARE this article and blog with others. Thank you!

Help This Video Go Viral – Dear Porn: A Father’s Letter

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I created this powerful video to challenge fathers (and all parents) to wake-up and engage in the battle to protect children from pornography. Please enjoy and share it with as many people as possible. This message is VERY important. Our children are depending on us.

CLICK HERE TO WATCH

Forest Benedict, MA, SATP-C, LMFT, Clinical Director of LifeSTAR of the Central Valley. If you benefited from this article, please “follow” me on this blog and on Twitter, “like” me on Facebook, and SHARE this article and blog with others. Thank you!

My Unexpected Radio Interview

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Today I had the opportunity to do a radio interview on the Trevor Carey show (FM 96.7/AM1400) about the effects of pornography, protecting children from pornography, and other topics related to sexual addiction treatment. The issue that sparked Trevor’s interest in this interview was Hustler’s lawsuit against our city. This morning Trevor found the article I wrote in the Fresno Bee last June on this topic called Vote for Love, Not Porn and invited me to share my perspectives on the topic. It was a great opportunity and the timing could not have been better since my new book was released today on Amazon. Click here to hear our interview.

Forest Benedict, MA, SATP-C, LMFT, Clinical Director of LifeSTAR of the Central Valley If you benefited from this article, please “follow” us on this blog and on Twitter, “like” us on Facebook, and SHARE this article and blog with others. Thank you!

What I Need from You Right Now: An Appeal to America by a White Father of Black Sons

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This is not as much a political post as a personal piece.

Today is a sad and confusing day for me. I sit stunned by the surprising news that Trump won the Presidential election last night. This news has stirred in me both sadness and anger. I am in protective parent mode. As a white father of black sons, I fear the racist influence that may increase in this country, infecting and emboldening others with hateful, hurtful lies.

Initially, I felt repelled from my friends who voted for a racist President. I was torn by the fact that many who voted for Trump love Christ like I do. As a white father of black sons, I am indignant. Yet, I am also aware of the destructive potential of the emotional cocktail brewing in my heart. If I’m not careful, I will lash out with the same attitudes I renounce. Not attacking violently, but verbally. In spite of this internal battle, I refrain from reacting in revenge, knowing that such responses never build up the kingdom God wants to create through me.

I have some requests though. As a father of black sons, I need a few things from you.

What I need from you right now is….

Understanding, not defensiveness.

Empathy, not fact checking.

Compassion, not condemnation.

What I need from you right now is this: That you would mourn with those who mourn. That you would take a moment to imagine how this political news affects those oppressed by prejudice. That you would step inside the mind of a parent who fears the future maltreatment of their children. My wife and I face such fears, now more than ever. We are not alone in this.

Most of all, what I need from you right now is that, regardless of your political views, you don’t give hatred a foothold in your heart. If our new President incites injustice, stand for what is right. If his rhetoric reinforces racism, resist with love. Regardless of the leanings of our new leader, don’t align with attitudes that demean and divide.

I will work hard not to retaliate against racism in the ways I denounce. I will not let my anger disunite me from others. I will work hard to love all people, even those whose votes may cause my family undeserved suffering. In the words of Martin Luther King, “I have decided to stick with love…Hate is too great a burden to bear.”

-By Forest Benedict, LMFT, SATP-C

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