The Practice of Humility

A challenge to all of us on our spiritual journey

Crossroads Christian Church

Recently our staff spent a day away for some contemplation and reflection – something I highly recommend.  We spent some time together around “The Practice of Humility” adapted from The Spiritual Disciplines Handbook. Humility is not thinking less of yourself but thinking of yourself less.  Humble people let go of image management and self-promotion.  They honor others by making others’ needs as real and important as their own.

“Personas and the false self are cobbled together by identifying with the grandiosity of secondary things. It is easy to tell when the false self is in place, because it is always afraid of looking little and inadequate … A true Christ-in-me self is deeply at home in God and in its own skin.  Such a self humbly receives its identity as a gift and feels no need to justify its existence.  The mirror of public response doesn’t matter… Jesus is the…

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Please Vote for Your Favorite Book Cover (Forest Benedict’s Upcoming Book)

 

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I am excited to share some possible covers for my upcoming book “Life After Lust”! Would you please take a minute to browse through the 5 images below and comment on which one is your favorite and what you like about it?

Also,  which cover (or combination of covers) would be the best fit for my intended audience –  male and female sex & pornography addicts of all (or no) religious backgrounds?

Also, please let me know if you prefer the subtitle on these covers or this one: “Stories & Strategies for Sex & Porn Addiction Recovery”.

The more people who vote, the better, so please share this post with others.

Thank you for your feedback and for sharing this exciting news!

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Gratefully,

Forest Benedict, LMFT, SATP-C

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The Subtle Signs of God’s Presence

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Today I am posturing my heart to hear God. I do this by both listening and looking. I often take time to listen to his whispers. And I notice nuances throughout my day that direct me to Divine presence. Call it an active imagination or “childlike faith”.

I find the  subtle hints reassuring. Yesterday, one such “sign” came to me through the early morning alarm of a phone I had not used in months. Granted, my son had been playing with it the night before but how did the alarm get set for 5:40am? I remembered that a men’s group from my church was meeting at 6am. I lay in bed pondering my options then decided to follow the “sign”. I joined the men and was incredibly blessed both by what I received and what I contributed. It changed my day.

Today I choose to listen for God’s still small voice and look for his invisible hand. If I hear or see that which reminds me of his loving care or concern I will count it as an undeserved and welcome gift.

“But the monks lived in a world in which everything was a word of God to them, in which the tenderness of God was manifest in accidental signs, nocturnal communiques, and the ordinary stuff of our pedestrian lives.” The Ragamuffin Gospel, Brennan Manning

-By Forest Benedict, LMFT, SATP-C

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“Life After Lust” – My Upcoming Book

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Recovery from sexual addiction is very hard but very possible. Those who feel caught in the cycle of addiction often have difficulty believing in a way out, let alone knowing what it is. Fortunately, many sexual addicts have found their way to freedom; there truly is life after lust. I am excited to announce a new resource soon to be published that will provide  powerful strategies and motivating stories for those seeking recovery from sexual addiction.

My first book is soon to be published, entitled “Life After Lust: Stories & Strategies to Strengthen Sexual Addicts in Recovery“. This book is a practical and inspiring guide for sexual addicts seeking change. It is a collection of stories and articles aimed at challenging, equipping, and energizing all readers. In this book, I share deeper details about my personal recovery journey. The book is also packed with recommendations for fueling successful recovery.

I look forward to sharing this new resource with you soon. I believe this book will be a life-changing catalyst for long-term change.

Stay tuned for upcoming announcements about publication date and availability.

-By Forest Benedict, LMFT, SATP-C

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Soul Fuel

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This morning as I prepared my soul for the day, the word “fuel” surfaced in my mind.

Let me ask, what fuels your soul?

Do you run from day to day on empty?

Do you fill your tank with dirt and sludge, in denial of the natural law of sowing and reaping?

I am reminded that the source of my soul’s strength is my Savior.

Jesus said, “Remain in me, as I also remain in you. No branch can bear fruit by itself; it must remain in the vine. Neither can you bear fruit unless you remain in me.” John 15:4

May we remain mindful of our soul’s strength and deficiencies today.

May we invest in the seconds of solitude that lead to the refueling and refocusing our souls thirst for.