Heal Sexual Shame. Reconnect with Desire. Reclaim Your Authentic Sexual Self.
You Don’t Need to Be Fixed. You Need Permission to Come Home to Yourself.
For many people, sexuality has never felt truly free.
Maybe you grew up in purity culture or a religious environment where desire was treated as dangerous. Maybe shame, fear, guilt, or old messages still shape the way you relate to your body, your relationships, or your sexuality.
You may find yourself wondering:
- Can I trust my desires?
- What do I actually want?
- Why do I feel so much shame around sex?
- How do I explore my sexuality without abandoning my values?
- How do I stop fighting myself?
At Rewilding Desire, desire is not something to either suppress or blindly follow. Desire is something to become curious about.
When approached with compassion, honesty, and Self-leadership, desire becomes a guide toward greater authenticity, intimacy, freedom, and joy.
This is the heart of Rewilding Desire.
Is Rewilding Desire Coaching Right for You?
This coaching may be right for you if you:
- grew up in purity culture or conservative religion
- struggle with sexual shame
- want to reconnect with desire without judgment
- feel disconnected from your body
- are exploring your sexuality or identity
- want healthier relationships
- are curious about kink, tantra, non-monogamy, dating, or other expressions of sexuality and want a judgment-free space to explore them
- feel stuck between shame and freedom
- have desires and fantasies you’re afraid to explore
- want your sexuality to feel authentic rather than fear-driven
- are ready to create your own values instead of simply inheriting someone else’s
For example, clients often feel anxious after years of purity-culture messaging, or caught between “what I was taught” and “what I actually want.” If any of that resonates, you’re not broken, you’re disconnected from something that can be rediscovered.
This is not about becoming more sexual. It’s about becoming more fully yourself.
What Coaching Looks Like
Every coaching relationship is different, but here’s what to expect:
- First step: A consultation call to talk through what you’re looking for and make sure coaching — not therapy — is the right fit for your needs right now.
- Format: One-on-one sessions, held virtually, typically on a recurring weekly or biweekly cadence. Group cohorts are also available.
- Pace: Coaching is collaborative and paced to you. Some clients work together for a few months; others stay longer as new layers of exploration open up.
- What we’ll explore together may include:
- reconnecting with authentic desire
- exploring fears and beliefs
- healing shame
- Internal Family Systems (IFS) based parts work
- sexual authenticity
- pleasure without shame
- boundaries and communication
- embodiment
- creating a sexuality aligned with your deepest values and wants
- giving yourself permission to explore
Why I Created Rewilding Desire
Rewilding Desire is deeply personal.
I was raised in conservative Christianity and purity culture, where I learned to see my sexual desire as something dangerous that needed to be controlled. For decades, I “battled” lust, believing I was recovering from sex and pornography addiction. That belief shaped much of my life and work. I even wrote a book called Life After Lust, taught others how to overcome lust, and trained therapists to help people do the same. Like many of the people I worked with, I believed the path to healing was found through greater control over my desires.
But as I continued my own healing journey, something unexpected happened.
Through years of extensive personal work — including Internal Family Systems (IFS) — I began to recognize that, for me, the deepest struggle wasn’t my sexual desire. It was the shame I had learned to carry about it. The teachings of purity culture had profoundly shaped the way I saw myself, my body, and my sexuality. Rather than helping me trust myself, they had taught me to fear parts of myself that were never meant to be my enemies.
That realization changed everything.
I came to see that desire is not something to suppress — or blindly follow. Desire is information. It points toward longings, values, connection, creativity, intimacy, and authenticity. When we learn to approach our desires with curiosity, compassion, and Self-leadership instead of fear or shame, they can become powerful guides toward a richer and more meaningful life.
That insight became the foundation of Rewilding Desire.
Today, as a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist, Certified Internal Family Systems (IFS) Therapist, and Rewilding Desire Coach, my passion is helping others heal from sexual shame and reconnect with the parts of themselves they’ve learned to hide, suppress, or distrust. Using the transformative tools of IFS and other evidence-informed approaches, I help people build a relationship with their desires that is grounded in wisdom rather than fear, curiosity rather than judgment, and authenticity rather than obligation.
The name Rewilding Desire reflects what I believe is possible for all of us. So many of our most vibrant, creative, sensual, playful, and authentic parts have been domesticated by shame, fear, or inherited beliefs. When those parts are welcomed home instead of pushed away, we don’t simply change our relationship with sexuality, we change our relationship with ourselves.
My hope is that this work helps you discover that you were never broken. You may simply have been disconnected from some of the most beautiful parts of who you are.
To learn more about the surprising, powerful backstory that led to the creation of Rewilding Desire, I invite you to listen to my Self-Led in Bed and The Mindfulness Within podcast interviews here.
Therapy or Coaching? What’s the Difference
Although I am a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist and Certified Internal Family Systems (IFS) Therapist, Rewilding Desire Coaching is offered separately from psychotherapy. Coaching is designed for personal growth, self-discovery, and transformational exploration — not mental health treatment — and is appropriate for adults who are psychologically stable and seeking greater authenticity, freedom, and intentional growth.
| Coaching | Therapy | |
|---|---|---|
| Focus | Personal growth, self-discovery, exploration | Treatment of mental health conditions |
| Best for | Freedom from shame, exploring desire, deeper self-connection | Anxiety, depression, PTSD, OCD, significant trauma requiring clinical care |
| Includes | Educational, experiential, present and future-oriented support | Diagnosis, treatment plans, clinical documentation, crisis intervention |
| Insurance / records | Not billed to insurance; no medical records | Billable, with clinical documentation |
| Where offered | Worldwide | Licensed psychotherapy in California or Washington |
A note on scope and boundaries: I don’t provide coaching for my therapy clients. If during the course of coaching, it becomes clear that therapy would better serve your needs, I’ll gladly discuss whether my therapy practice — or another therapist — is the better fit.
Frequently Asked Questions
Is coaching confidential? Yes. While coaching isn’t governed by the same clinical confidentiality laws as psychotherapy, I hold our work together with the same care and discretion.
Do I need to already know what I want to explore? No. Many clients start with only a vague sense that something isn’t working. Curiosity is the starting point, not a prerequisite.
What if I’m not comfortable discussing certain topics, like kink or non-monogamy? We go wherever you want to go — no further. Coaching follows your pace and your values, not a checklist.
Is this only for people who grew up religious? Not at all. Purity culture is one common source of sexual shame, but shame and disconnection show up for all kinds of reasons. If any of the “Is this right for you” list resonates, this work may help.
How do I know if I need coaching or therapy? That’s exactly what the first consultation call is for. We’ll talk through what you’re experiencing and what kind of support fits best — and I’ll be honest with you if therapy seems like the better starting point.
Learn More About Rewilding Desire
Rewilding Desire is more than coaching. It’s a growing movement dedicated to helping people heal sexual shame, reclaim desire, and reconnect with their authentic selves through curiosity, compassion, and courageous exploration.
Visit RewildingDesire.com (website currently under construction) to explore:
- 🌿 The Rewilding Desire philosophy
- 🎙️ Podcast conversations (coming soon)
- 📖 Articles and resources
- 💬 Coaching offerings
- 🌎 Future programs
Ready to Begin?
If you’ve spent years trying to control, suppress, or “fix” your sexuality, perhaps the next step isn’t more control. Perhaps it’s curiosity.
If you’re ready to build a more compassionate relationship with your desire and create a sexuality that truly feels like your own, I’d be honored to walk alongside you.
Schedule a Consultation and Begin Your Rewilding Desire Journey →