Free Sexual Addiction & Trauma Webinar This Friday (Plus Personal News)

Finding Peace CHS Webinar Troy Love

I am excited to invite you to an excellent webinar this Friday and share with you some very cool personal news. To learn more, check out my newest LifeSTAR Sacramento Blog post called FINDING PEACE FROM SEXUAL ADDICTION: FREE TRAUMA WEBINAR THIS FRIDAY.

I hope you can make it this Friday and March 8th as well! 😉

Forest Benedict, LMFT, SATP, author of Life After Lust: Stories & Strategies for Sex & Pornography Addiction Recovery. Please follow Forest on the following platforms: NewsletterYoutubeBlogTwitterFacebookInstagram, and Pinterest, and SHARE this valuable content with others. Thank you!

 

 

 

 

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Tools for Battling Fantasy, Lust, & Unwanted Thoughts

Staci Sprout, Quote Clouds Fantasy

Do you struggle with unwanted thoughts? Most of us do. If you want some help in this arena, start with reading the above quote by Staci Sprout. In Life After Lust, I provided many more strategies for battling lust. Which ones help you the most? What other strategies help you modify your thought patterns?

We can be free from the thoughts that tempt us to return to old, addictive, and self-destructive behavior. May we learn to let go of unwanted thoughts, replacing them with those that uplift and inspire us.

 

*Artwork created by Forest Benedict (aka Me)

Forest Benedict, LMFT, SATP, author of Life After Lust: Stories & Strategies for Sex & Pornography Addiction Recovery. Please follow Forest on the following platforms: NewsletterYoutubeBlogTwitterFacebookInstagram, and Pinterest, and SHARE this valuable content with others. Thank you!

Mastering Self-Compassion

Matery self-compassion female mirror

Skill to Master #14: Self-compassion

How self-compassionate are you? I challenge you to make self-compassion a daily recovery practice. Click here for ideas on how to do this.

 

Forest Benedict, LMFT, SATP, author of Life After Lust: Stories & Strategies for Sex & Pornography Addiction Recovery. Please follow Forest on the following platforms: NewsletterYoutubeBlogTwitterFacebookInstagram, and Pinterest, and SHARE this valuable content with others. Thank you!

A Vision for the Younger Generation

Staci Sprout Protection Quote

Today as I thumbed through my copy of Staci Sprout’s memoir Naked in Public, I came across this amazing quote (above). It fits perfectly with the theme of Life After Lust and is truly a dream worth working towards. May we all do our part to create this reality.

If you believe in this powerful vision, please share this great quote with others.

 

Forest Benedict, LMFT, SATP, author of Life After Lust: Stories & Strategies for Sex & Pornography Addiction Recovery. Please follow Forest on the following platforms: NewsletterYoutubeBlogTwitterFacebookInstagram, and Pinterest, and SHARE this valuable content with others. Thank you!

Audiobook News: The Ripple Effects of Life After Lust

AudiobookNews

I recently received my first report outlining how many copies of the Life After Lust audiobook were purchased. I am grateful to announce that there are currently a total of 199 copies of the audiobook circulating in the US, Canada, Australia, Malaysia, Denmark, the UK, Ireland, & Japan! I am delighted that the message of recovery is reaching across the globe! As I dream up future recovery resources to reach the world, I am grateful that this audiobook continues to make a difference in online stores, libraries, and beyond.

If you contributed to the audiobook Kickstarter, you made this possible! I am forever grateful for you.

In Gratitude,

Forest

 

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Warrior

_Often the wounded make the mightiest warriors._

 

Forest Benedict, LMFT, SATP, author of Life After Lust: Stories & Strategies for Sex & Pornography Addiction Recovery. Please follow Forest on the following platforms: NewsletterYoutubeBlogTwitterFacebookInstagram, and Pinterest, and SHARE this valuable content with others. Thank you!

 

My Magic Formula

MY Magic formula

A friend of mine recently questioned how everything keeps working out for me, asking what my secret was, as if there was some magical formula. The more I thought about it, I realized in some funny way there is a formula I am living out right now.

In the past, my magic formula was Say Yes to Everything + Try to Impress Everyone = Burnout & Resentment.

Today’s formula is more like Do What I Love + Work on Myself + Be Visible + Believe in Something Bigger + Be Consistent + Surround Myself With the Right People + Relentless Optimism + Synchronicity + Waiting = The Next Right Invitation (SO SIMPLE, RIGHT?!)

Right now, this is working out in mind-blowing ways and I can’t help but laugh! Really, it is quite unbelievable how this is all playing out. I have not been pounding the pavement looking for places to speak and teach and publish like I have in the past. I’ve just practiced the above formula and really cool things are happening. Here’s a sample of some of the upcoming opportunities on the table:

  • October – Finishing a chapter for a major contribution to my field (I’ll tell you more when I’m allowed to – wait, I should be writing now!)
  • November 9-10 – Co-facilitating a Phase 1 recovery Intensive in Sacramento
  • November 14 – Being interviewed by Clay Olsen for Fortify (join us!)
  • November/December – Possible webinar with a big online Christian sex addiction event
  • February – Speaking at the Life After Lust Retreat in Northern California
  • March – Webinar with the Center for Healthy Sex

After that….we’ll just have to wait and see!

I share these things not only to invite you to participate in them but also to invite you into your own purposeful path. Is there anything more meaningful than living the life we were designed to live? The more freedom we experience, the more perspective we gain and the more we can live out our purpose.

Based on your life experience, what is your magic formula? What are the keys to a meaningful life?

Ok, that’s all for now…I need to get back to my other writing. Thanks for reading!

 

Forest Benedict, LMFT, SATP, author of Life After Lust: Stories & Strategies for Sex & Pornography Addiction Recovery. Please follow Forest on the following platforms: NewsletterYoutubeBlogTwitterFacebookInstagram, and Pinterest, and SHARE this valuable content with others. Thank you!

 

Finish Strong

Finish Strong FemaleFinish Strong

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The Greatest Hits of Life After Lust: Top 10 Most Popular Passages

LAL Top 10

When you write a book, you never know what’s going to resonate most deeply with readers. I certainly didn’t know. But I recently learned what passages were most highlighted in my ebook and now I know. The results are somewhat surprising and certainly fascinating. I’d love to share them with you.

After compiling the top 10 passages from Life After Lust, it is astonishing that 7 out of the 10 were from the same place – Chapter 4: The Lie of Lust! (Ironically, I had a recent dream about Chapter 4). This was clearly people’s favorite chapter. This discovery delighted me because I wrote that chapter specifically for this book, knowing there was a need for a clear definition of lust.

Two of the 10 most popular passages were from Chapter 3: Don’t Be a Victim to Sexual Addiction. This is meaningful to me because I took an article I published through XXXChurch, based on thousands of dollars of personal growth classes and experience, and very thoughtfully, with the guidance of others, crafted it into what it is today. Personally, I believe this is the most powerful chapter, with the most life-changing implications.

One more thing…I thought it would be fun to create quote pictures to represent these popular passages. These will be posted here, in my newsletter, on my Facebook page, and on Twitter. Will you please share them on those platforms, Pinterest, Instagram, etc to help spread the hopeful message of Life After Lust? Also, I would love to hear what your favorite quotes were from the book. It would make my day if you shared those with me.

Without further ado, here are the greatest hits of Life After Lust (in reverse order, to heighten anticipation), based on reader’s highlights. I hope you have as much fun reading these as I did creating them.

#10 with 14 highlights from Chapter 4: The Lie of Lust

10 Popular LAL Quote

#9 with 22 highlights from Chapter 4: The Lie of Lust

9 Popular LAL Quote

#8 with 24 highlights from Chapter 4: The Lie of Lust

8 Popular LAL Quote

#7 with 30 highlights from Chapter 4: The Lie of Lust

7 Popular LAL Quote

#6 with 35 highlights from Chapter 4: The Lie of Lust

6 Popular LAL Quote

#5 with 41 highlights from Chapter 3: Don’t Be a Victim to Sexual Addiction

5 Popular LAL Quote

#4 with 43 highlights from the Introduction

4 Popular LAL Quote

#3 with 44 highlights from Chapter 3: Don’t Be a Victim to Sexual Addiction

3 Popular Quote

#2 with 46 highlights from Chapter 4: The Lie of Lust

2 Popular LAL Quote

Drum roll…..

And #1, with 54 highlights from Chapter 4: The Lie of Lust

1 Popular LAL Quote

May these reminders strengthen your resolve to let go of the lie of lust and grab hold of a life of love.

If this post inspired you, please share it with someone you know.

Forest Benedict, LMFT, SATP, author of Life After Lust: Stories & Strategies for Sex & Pornography Addiction Recovery. Please follow Forest on the following platforms: NewsletterYoutubeBlogTwitterFacebookInstagram, and Pinterest, and SHARE this valuable content with others. Thank you!

Joe Saavedra & The Evil Genius

Evil Genius Quote

As a teacher, this is a proud moment for me. One of my SATP students is wasting no time at making waves in the world. Joe Saavedra, LMFT, SATP (student) just landed a writing gig on Rob Weiss’ Sex & Relationship Healing blog! You may know that Rob Weiss is one of the most prominent leaders in the sex addiction treatment field (I will forever be gratefully shocked that he endorsed Life After Lust). So, I am incredibly proud of Joe for playing big with his life and using his expertise and recovery story to impact others.

If that wasn’t enough, you know what Joe went ahead and did in his newly published post called The Question of Identity? He quoted Life After Lust, introducing a character in my book called The Evil Genius. I feel deeply honored by Joe’s generosity in doing this and hope that this exposure will help more people experience healing.

I invite you to read Joe’s article, subscribe to Rob’s blog, and think about what place the Evil Genius has in your life and recovery.

Watch out world! Joe Saavedra is equipped, skilled, and more passionate than me about sexual addiction recovery. He is making an impact and, trust me, this is only the beginning.

 

Forest Benedict, LMFT, SATP, author of Life After Lust: Stories & Strategies for Sex & Pornography Addiction Recovery. Please follow Forest on the following platforms: NewsletterYoutubeBlogTwitterFacebookInstagram, and Pinterest, and SHARE this valuable content with others. Thank you!