Standing Against the “Shades of Grey” Sequel


As the “Shades of Grey” sequel approaches, so does the 2 year anniversary of the most popular post I’ve ever written. Click here to read that post and to learn what you can do to stand against this movie than glamorizes sexual violence and glorifies pornography. PLEASE SHARE THIS POST WITH OTHERS.

Forest Benedict, MA, SATP-C, LMFT, Clinical Director of LifeSTAR of the Central Valley If you benefited from this article, please “follow” us on this blog and on Twitter, “like” us on Facebook, and SHARE this article and blog with others. Thank you!



Will You Join the Controversial Causes of “Life After Lust?”


My upcoming book Life After Lust is not your normal recovery manual. True, it has some excellent content geared toward helping women and men recover from sex addiction. As one therapist wrote:

“Life After Lust” is a resource to help reinforce you for a lifetime of healthy living. While it’s not easy to stop a pornography or sex addiction, it’s even more difficult to build a life of trust, intimacy, connection, and emotional health after years of addictive living. Forest has taken a complicated and confusing process and organized it into an easy-to-follow guide. Knowing Forest, he would love to sit down with each person who picks up his book and personally help them map out their own journey. Thankfully, anyone who reads this book will feel like they’re sitting with him getting personal guidance and support. His compassionate and non- judgmental voice comes through loud and clear. He expects great things from his readers and offers encouragement and realistic goals to help people create a bright future. Geoff Steurer, MS, LMFT, Founding Director of LifeStar of St. George, UT and co-author of Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity


Life After Lust has many recovery resources but also emphasizes the important yet controversial themes of protecting children from pornography and standing against the porn industry. Here’s one woman’s response to the book:

“Sex addiction destroyed my first marriage, so I was worried this book would be a trigger for me. But surprisingly, it was not! Benedict handles the topic in an incredibly powerful, insightful, yet sensitive manner. I am convinced that if more couples approached addiction recovery with these tools, there would be fewer divorces and less heartache. I applaud Benedict’s courage in sharing his story and bestowing his hard-gained wisdom on others traveling this difficult path. I sincerely appreciate the emphasis on protecting children and standing against pornography. The chapter, “Dear Porn: A Father’s Letter,” is close to my heart and truly a call to arms. As a mother and activist, I face this battle every day. Forest Benedict is a powerful ally in the fight!”-Melody A. Bergman, Writer, Speaker, Activist,

If you believe in protecting children from pornography and standing against the porn industry (including the upcoming movie in the Shades of Grey series), I invite you to share this blog with others and join my Life After Lust Launch Team. Let’s put our mutual passions to work, getting the word out about a book that will both help people recover and inspire them to change the world we all live in.

To read more about the controversial causes presented in Life After Lust and to learn how to join the Life After Lust Launch Team, click here.

*Photo by Gisela Merkuur

Forest Benedict, MA, SATP-C, LMFT, Clinical Director of LifeSTAR of the Central Valley If you benefited from this article, please “follow” us on this blog and on Twitter, “like” us on Facebook, and SHARE this article and blog with others. Thank you!

“Standing Together Against ‘Shades of Grey’: The Birth of a Movement” by Forest Benedict, MA, SATP-C, MFT Intern (#63601)

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On February 6th I did the bravest thing I’ve ever done, sharing with the world “What One Person Can Do to Stand Against ‘Shades of Grey’”. Prompted from within, I believed the time had arrived. Diving into controversial waters, I knew many would attack both me and my message.

As I prepared for this bold stance, I gleaned from Brennan Manning’s wisdom regarding “those who choose to suffer for the absolute voice of conscience”. He wrote that “an increasing passion for truth evokes a growing indifference to public opinion and to what people say or think…When we stand on our own two feet and claim responsibility for our own unique self, we are growing in personal autonomy, fortitude, and freedom from the bondage of human approval.” I resonated deeply with those timely words. Beyond any moment in my personal history, writing this piece was standing strongly on my own two feet, proclaiming the truth that stirred within my heart. Even if nobody stood with me, there was deep satisfaction in knowing that I did what I knew was right.

To my great joy, many stood with me.

There was a massive surge of interest and the article quickly gained momentum. On the first day there were 611 views, which doubled the second day, steadily increasing from there. February 12th the article peaked in number of views, at 3,548 views in one day! Today, ten days later, the article has been viewed well over 16,000 times! With visitors from all over the world, there was an incredible response.

In the first week, I watched excitedly, witnessing the article spread like wildfire from one caring citizen to another, throughout Facebook, Twitter, and LinkedIn. I was honored when other bloggers wrote about and shared my article. Locally, the Center for Community Transformation endorsed the article and it was published in the Fresno Bee on Valentine’s Day.

What I will never know is how many lives were impacted by this rapidly spreading message. If only I could calculate how many letters went out to theaters or how many people felt empowered. I can only imagine. I also invite readers to share their responses and experiences as replies (below). I love hearing stories about the ripple effect. It encourages all of us.

It is my hope that this is the birth of a movement.

This article was about much more than standing against “50 Shades of Grey”, it was about standing against the pornography pandemic that is rocking our world. In the hearing before the senate on “Why the Government Should Care About Pornography”, Dr Jill Manning testified that “leading experts in the field of sexual addictions contend online sexual activity is a hidden public health hazard exploding, in part because very few are recognizing it as such or taking it seriously”….“Even more disturbing is the fact that the first Internet generations have not reached full maturity, so the upper limits of this impact have yet to be realized.” I believe the proliferation of pornography will be the downfall of the following generations if we do not start taking this threat seriously and standing in defense of our children and our world.

For these reasons, I hope that the success of “What One Person Can Do” is a sign that forces are joining us on the front-lines. This is a winnable war. Our community standards can rise. May we keep voting with our money, writing and speaking for this cause, investing in the good, sharing these messages in our spheres of influence, locking arms with others in the movement, persisting, and believing that “there’s some good in this world, and it’s worth fighting for”.

Because of all of you, this article’s message was successful. Thank you for standing by my side, on your own two feet, speaking unpopular truths that needed to be voiced. As this movement progresses forward, I expectantly believe there are great things to come.

Hope is on the horizon.

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-Written by Forest Benedict, MA, SATP-C, MFT Intern (#63601), LifeSTAR of the Central Valley

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What One Person Can Do to Stand Against “Shades of Grey” by Forest Benedict, MA, SATP-C, MFT Intern (#63601)

I just created a powerful resource for those choosing to courageously stand against the upcoming movie Fifty Shades of Grey. This is by far the boldest and most controversial piece I have ever written. It is also a Divinely directed work. I predict God will use it in mighty ways. Please read and share this important article with everyone you know.


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Click here: What One Person Can Do to Stand Against “Shades of Grey” by Forest Benedict, MA, SATP-C, MFT Intern (#63601)