Making Friends & Memoirs

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One of the unexpected joys of writing Life After Lust was the wonderful people I met as a result. That was the case with DJ Burr and Staci Sprout, who have since become friends. I met Staci when she reached out to me to offer guidance when I was finishing Life After Lust and not only did she endorse my book but she also helped me make the book more accessible to female sex addicts, which was a priority for me. She helped me when I felt overwhelmed along the way, sharing some of her own writing process (she is the author of Naked in Public, an excellent memoir about her addiction and recovery). Staci later introduced me to DJ Burr, who had me as a guest on his Making An Addict podcast (click here to hear that episode). Since then, the three of us have offered each other support and our friendship is such a gift. We are all therapists, authors, and recovering addicts. Soon, we will have another thing in common (more on this later).

So, you can imagine the fun I had watching Staci interview DJ in the new Sex Addiction in the News video uploaded today. Not only was it entertaining to watch but helpful as well. I recommend it those in recovery as well as their partners. Check it out here:

Staci & DJ have done something that I have recently become inspired to do myself: write a memoir. Diving into Staci’s memoir, I have decided to write my own story in much more detail than I did in Life After Lust. I have a book name and many ideas flooding my mind. While going into the pain of my past will be difficult, I believe it will be an adventure into deeper healing, becoming a resource that will encourage and inspire others. I’ll keep you all posted on the progress of this important new project.

Wishing you all a wonderful holiday weekend.

Forest

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Essential Mindset #15: Self-Love & Responding with Care in Recovery

A much-needed reminder for all of us recovering from life’s hurts.

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Life After Lust Superfan Contest (8 Prizes)

Life After Lust Superfan Contest

It’s amazing to think that a year ago Life After Lust was published in paperback. On this mind-blowing journey, thousands of people were impacted by the book (closest guess wins a book) and I’ve made many surprising and meaningful connections.

Truth is, I could not have accomplished this success my own. It was a team effort. Along the way, some superfans have emerged that have generously given of their time and energy to get the word out about Life After Lust and encourage me along the way.

I WANT TO SAY THANK YOU!

As a token of gratitude to my Superfans, I have created a contest. The first 8 people who accomplish the specific tasks outlined below and email me the proof will receive the following package:

  1. A personal or group 30 minute Skype or phone call with me discussing any topics related to the book (not therapy)
  2. A signed copy of Life After Lust mailed to you or a friend
  3. The Kindle version of Life After Lust emailed to you or a friend
  4. The audiobook version of Life After Lust (once it is released)

TOTAL PACKAGE VALUE: Priceless to a Superfan 😉

Interested?

If so, here’s what you need to do (if you haven’t done so already):

  1. Subscribe to my YouTube Channel
  2. Follow my blog
  3. Subscribe to the Life After Lust Newsletter
  4. Like and follow my Facebook page
  5. Follow me on Twitter, Instagram, and Amazon
  6. Join the Life After Lust Community and The Anti-Pornography Movement Facebook Groups
  7. Write an Amazon review of Life After Lust
  8. Guess how many copies of Life After Lust are in circulation (within 200 – you get unlimited guesses)

Once completed, email me screen shots proving you’ve accomplished all of these tasks at forest@forestbenedict.com and I will let you know if you’ve won. Remember, packages will be awarded to the first 8 people who accomplish this. Superfans will obviously have a head start but anyone can win this. If you are not on the social platforms listed here, you can email me for alternatives. I will announce when all 8 packages have been awarded in the Life After Lust Community Facebook Group (winners will remain anonymous).

It is my hope that this treasure hunt will be exciting for a handful of people. Certainly, for my Superfans, it will. Whether you take interest in this giveaway or not, THANK YOU ALL for making Life After Lust a success. It’s been quite a year….one I will never regret or forget.

Gratefully,

Forest Benedict, Author of Life After Lust

Forest Benedict, LMFT, SATP, author of Life After Lust: Stories & Strategies for Sex & Pornography Addiction Recovery. Please follow Forest on the following platforms: NewsletterYoutubeBlogTwitterFacebookInstagram, and Pinterest, and SHARE this valuable content with others. Thank you!

 

 

 

 

 

Lacy Alajna Bentley Interview: Female Sex, Porn, & Love Addiction Recovery

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Today I had the privilege of interviewing Lacy Alajna Bentley on female sex, porn, and love addiction recovery. We covered a lot of ground in this interview on relevant and timely topics including the roots of addiction, fantasy, shame, connection, abuse, empowerment, and Lacy’s story and upcoming book. This casual interview is a must-see for females battling sex, love, and pornography addiction (and those who love them). Also in this interview, some exciting news was made public about our collaboration on an upcoming project. I’m so grateful for Lacy’s time and willingness to share her heart so openly in this Life After Lust VLOG episode.

 

To check out Lacy’s website and resources, click here. I also recommend you take advantage of Lacy’s generous offer presented in the video.

Additional recovery resources for women include:

Staci Sprout – Women’s Sex-Love Addiction Resources (and her book)

Marnie Ferree – Suggested Reading (and her book)

Covenant Eyes – Resources for Women Who Struggle with Porn

Jessica Harris – Women & Pornography (and her book)

Forest Benedict – Life After Lust (and LifeSTAR groups)

 

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It is my hope that this interview encourages and equips all women struggling with sexual addiction. As stated in the above interview:

“You are not the only one, you are not crazy or beyond hope. Women need to keep reaching out for help. Keep looking, keep trying, because more people are becoming aware of the issue and more resources are becoming available. You’re worth the effort.”  – The Anonymous Female Recovering Addict Who Sponsored This VLOG Interview

Forest Benedict, LMFT, SATP, author of Life After Lust: Stories & Strategies for Sex & Pornography Addiction Recovery. Please follow Forest on the following platforms: NewsletterYoutubeBlogTwitterFacebookInstagram, and Pinterest, and SHARE this valuable content with others. Thank you!

Surprised by the News: Men Fighting Toxic Masculinity

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Last Friday when I tuned into the Staci Sprout‘s Facebook Live show Sex Addiction in the News, I had no idea I would be part of the conversation. It was the third installment of the new show, which Staci created out of her passion to de-stigmatize the conversation around sex addiction so more people can find help (click here to watch).

In this week’s episode, Staci shared about an upcoming movie about female sex addiction, treatment models for teen porn addiction, the impact of growing up as a child of a sex addict, sex addiction in the LGBTQ community, sex addiction and pornography research, and the sex addiction books of the week.

To my surprise, Sprout shared about both my book and Andrew Bauman’s book (The Psychology of Porn), showing a clip from our recent VLOG interview on objectification, lust, and misogyny.

I am humbled by her description of recovering men like us:

I am honored to be viewed in such a light. If you’ve read Life After Lust, you’ll know I am passionate about fighting against sexual exploitation and objectification. I have championed this cause with messages such as this:

Andrew Bauman is another strong voice calling out the worth of women. In his book The Psychology of Porn, he writes:

Being recognized for these values increases my resolve to be continue being part of the solution, as our world heals from the wounds of toxic masculinity. I invite all men to join this cause, which is currently led by many amazing and strong women such as Staci Sprout.

Thank you Staci for starting such important discussions. You are bringing awareness and hope to a world saturated with sexual addiction.

I invite you the join hands with those of us fighting for human dignity and sexual recovery in The Anti-Pornography Movement Facebook Group. To learn from other leaders in the movement against sexual exploitation, check out the upcoming Coalition to End Sexual Exploitations Global Summit in April and the Lonestar Coalition Against Pornography Conference in September.

To join the weekly conversation, visit Staci Sprout’s Facebook page on Fridays at 5pm (PST).

I hope to see you there.

Forest Benedict, LMFT, SATP, author of Life After Lust: Stories & Strategies for Sex & Pornography Addiction Recovery. Please follow Forest on the following platforms: NewsletterYoutubeBlogTwitterFacebookLinkedInInstagramPinterestGoogle+StumbleUpon, and SHARE this valuable content with others. Thank you!

My Last LifeSTAR Blog Post

My Last LifeSTAR Blog Post_ Forest Benedict's Bittersweet Goodbye

When I started the LifeSTAR of the Central Valley blog 5 years ago I had no idea how far-reaching the ripple effects would be. How could I? Though I have written since childhood, this was my first experience putting my written works online, sharing them with the world. Never did I imagine that this journey would lead us here, with 192 posts and 76,159 views by 52,923 visitors from all around the world (153 countries)! It still blows my mind that 24% of our total views came from one article that went viral in February of 2015.

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I am certain that the posts on that blog have encouraged, strengthened, and challenged many. It is hopeful to see there were 580 clicks on our private practice links, meaning that many people got help as a result of reading here.

That blog was also the birthplace of my first book Life After Lust. As was shared in a recent article, “Originally a set of blog posts, Life After Lust was born after a colleague suggested that he turn the posts into a book.” That’s how Life After Lust began. My book has impacted thousands over the past year since it was published.

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I have shared many powerful experiences from my life on that blog. You might remember me going public about my personal recovery from sexual addiction here on April 22, 2015. I was embraced with open arms and I am so grateful I shared that experience with all of you.

How Has That Blog Impacted You?

I can think of many worthwhile stories that resulted from my investment in that blog. What about you? How has that blog impacted, encouraged, and guided you? I would love to hear about it. Such stories mean the world to me.

A Time of Transition

I share all of these impacts with you as a way of celebrating what we’ve done here together and communicating some changes. A recent post sums up my current trajectory:

“Mere months ago this new vision caught me….that I am a writer with many books to be birthed. All paths are converging on this important truth. Writing has brought me where I am today and is brining me where I want to go. My focus has changed from squeezing writing into my life to building my life around my writing. Practically, this looks like downsizing my client load and upscaling opportunities to write. This is my path to the most meaning. Honoring my vision is an unflinching act of alignment. Sure, there are risks on this road. But nothing is more risky than abandoning my most purposeful path.”

As part of this transition, I recently stepped down from my Clinical Director role at LifeSTAR of the Central Valley. This was a bittersweet choice for me. I will continue leading my LifeSTAR groups and seeing some clients but am focusing more on creative projects that will uplift the world. While I am not leading the program, LifeSTAR remains in highly capable hands and will continue offering hope for those hurting. Along with this change, I will no longer be managing that blog. Don’t worry! That site will also continue to be in capable hands and you will continue receiving relevant recovery related content. From time to time, I’m sure you’ll see guest posts and other creative content I’ve submitted for sharing here. I hope you’ll continue visiting that blog and growing from the resource provided.

If you want to follow my journey from here, I’ll continue sharing via my personal blog, VLOG, and social media sites. While this goodbye is bittersweet, I believe it is for the best. I also believe that many lives will be impacted by the books to come.

THANK YOU!

THANK YOU Roubicek & Thacker for allowing me to thrive in my writing here!

THANK YOU readers for making that blog what it is!

THANK YOU all for joining me in this journey over the years!

I wish all of you health, wholeness, and healing.

And in case I don’t see you…good afternoon, good evening, and good night!

Gratefully,

Forest Benedict, LMFT, SATP

Forest Benedict, LMFT, SATP, author of Life After Lust: Stories & Strategies for Sex & Pornography Addiction Recovery. Please follow Forest on the following platforms: NewsletterYoutubeBlogTwitterFacebookLinkedInInstagramPinterestGoogle+StumbleUpon, and SHARE this valuable content with others. Thank you!

 

 

My Bittersweet Goodbyes

My Last LifeSTAR Blog Post_ Forest Benedict's Bittersweet Goodbye

Today is a day of bittersweet tears. I am letting go of old dreams and grabbing hold of new ones. I invite you to read my new blog post called My Last LifeSTAR Blog Post: Forest Benedict’s Bittersweet Goodbye to learn more about some significant changes in my writing and career journey. May we all follow the paths that lead to the most meaning.

THANK YOU all for your continued support!
Forest
Forest Benedict, LMFT, SATP, author of Life After Lust: Stories & Strategies for Sex & Pornography Addiction Recovery. Please follow Forest on the following platforms: NewsletterYoutubeBlogTwitterFacebookLinkedInInstagramPinterestGoogle+StumbleUpon, and SHARE this valuable content with others. Thank you!
 

The Psychology of Porn: Andrew Bauman Interview

Forest Benedict Interviews Andrew Bauman

Today I had the privilege of interviewing Andrew Bauman, the author of the new book The Psychology of Porn. In our conversation we explored topics in his book including lust, objectification, misogyny, and a “pornographic style of relating.” This short, insightful video is valuable for those seeking recovery from sexual addiction. Click below to watch and please share with anyone who might benefit. Check out Andrew’s book on Amazon.

The Psychology of Porn: Andrew Bauman Interview (Life After Lust VLOG)

I would love to hear your thoughts on the interview and I’m sure Andrew would enjoy hearing from you as well. For more information on Andrew and to reach out to him, check out his website https://www.andrewjbauman.com.

Wishing you all hope & healing,

Forest

Forest Benedict, LMFT, SATP, author of Life After Lust: Stories & Strategies for Sex & Pornography Addiction Recovery. Please follow Forest on the following platforms: NewsletterYoutubeBlogTwitterFacebookLinkedInInstagramPinterestGoogle+StumbleUpon, and SHARE this valuable content with others. Thank you!

Less Than an Hour to Go! Sex Addiction in the News Facebook Live Kickoff (Fridays at 5pm PST)

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I’m excited to announce the kickoff of a new resource! My friend Staci Sprout is starting her new weekly Facebook Live show called Sex Addiction in the News. To participate in this event, go to her Facebook page at 5pm PST by clicking here. Then, set a reminder for the weeks to come. Knowing Staci, this will be a great resource. See you there!

Forest Benedict, LMFT, SATP, author of Life After Lust: Stories & Strategies for Sex & Pornography Addiction Recovery. Please follow Forest on the following platforms: NewsletterYoutubeBlogTwitterFacebookLinkedInInstagramPinterestGoogle+StumbleUpon, and SHARE this valuable content with others. Thank you!