“The real problem of the Christian life comes where people do not usually look for it. It comes the very moment you wake up each morning. All your wishes and hopes for the day rush at you like wild animals. And the first job each morning consists simply in shoving them all back; in listening to that other voice, taking that other point of view, letting that other larger, stronger, quieter life come flowing in. And so on, all day. Standing back from all your natural fussings and frettings; coming in out of the wind.

We can only do it for moments at first. But from those moments the new sort of life will be spreading through our system: because now we are letting Him work at the right part of us. It is the difference between paint, which is merely laid on the surface, and a dye or stain which soaks right through. He never talked vague, idealistic gas. When He said, ‘Be perfect,’ He meant it. He meant that we must go in for the full treatment. It is hard; but the sort of compromise we are all hankering after is harder—in fact, it is impossible. It may be hard for an egg to turn into a bird: it would be a jolly sight harder for it to learn to fly while remaining an egg. We are like eggs at present. And you cannot go on indefinitely being just an ordinary, decent egg. We must be hatched or go bad.”

From Mere Christianity
Compiled in A Year with C.S. Lewis


For Parents and Porn-Addicts: A New Way to Watch Movies


I strongly believe that all Christians, especially those of us in recovery from sexual addiction, should guard our eyes. In early recovery I was vigilant to only watch movies of a particularly low rating or ones where the sensuality was edited out and these personal boundaries helped me achieve and maintain success. Now, as a father, I have additional reasons to filter what media comes into my household. There is so much visual sewage that can splash into my home if I am not careful.

For all of these reasons, I am grateful to learn about a resource called VidAngel that allows the streaming of online movies….with all of the junk edited out. I am looking forward to enjoying this resource and sharing it with others.

My young son and I are nearing an anticipated week long train trip across the country and I am looking forward to watching some great movies with him without the worry of what his innocent eyes will see (or what his ears will hear). If you too care about these issues, I invite you to check out VidAngel. May we all learn to enjoy great entertainment in ways that lift our spirits rather than tempt us away from our deepest commitments and our dearest values. Click here to check out VidAngel.

Forest Benedict, LMFT, SATP-C

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How to Ground Yourself in God’s Love

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This morning I read a powerful piece by Shauna Niequist that spoke to my soul. In it, she wrote about the difference between living from performance and living from belovedness. She shared,

“When I begin the day drenched in that love, that centering awareness of my worth and connection to God, the day is different. I don’t have to scramble or hustle. Fear dissipates, and what I’m left with is warmth, creativity, generosity. I can make and connect and create and tell the truth, because my worth isn’t on the line at every moment.”

May all of us who struggle to feel worthy through pleasing and performance, grow in our awareness of God’s unending affection as we seek His face, learning how to become centered in His love. Click here to learn about the practice Shauna uses to ground herself in God’s love.

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Free Porn-Protection Seminar – April 13th in Fresno

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On April 13th from 6:30-8:30pm, local therapist Forest Benedict is presenting his “Dangerous Access” seminar, equipping adults to protect children from pornography. This seminar is offered free to the local community and will be presented at First Presbyterian Church in Fresno.

The generous church staff recently shared this invitation:

“It is time we begin to address this issue here at First Pres. If you are a parent, grandparent, aunt or uncle, teacher, caregiver, mentor or just care about kids (pretty much everyone!) please join us this Wednesday, April 13 from 6:30-8:30pm in the Corner Room for a free seminar led by Forest Benedict entitled “Dangerous Access: Protecting Children from the Path of Pornography.

Forest Benedict is the clinical director of LifeStar of the Central Valley and has taught at Fresno Pacific Biblical Seminary. I look forward to how this education and equipping will help us as a church family raise spiritually and emotionally healthy kids.”

This is a valuable resource for everyone who cares about children and wants practical direction for protecting them. We hope to see you there!

If you are unable to attend but are seeking information about this topic, click here. PLEASE SHARE this invitation with others. Thank you!

You Are Worthy

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Today I came across a great article by another sexual addiction therapist called “Moving from Worthless to Worthy.” I resonated with what I read and wanted to share it with our readers because this information is fitting for those in recovery (and everyone else). May we all move forward in discovering and living in alignment with our worth.

Click here for article article: Moving from Worthless to Worthy

Originally posted here