12 Porn Free Years: The Secrets of My Success

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Today is a momentous day for me. Today marks 12 years free from pornography use. This is especially significant because it mirrors the 12 previous years I was enslaved to pornography. I look back on these years with gratitude. They were difficult but I’ve grown and learned so much. For the sake of personal reflection and to give back to those who are struggling, I have compiled the top 12 lessons and the top 12 key recovery skills I’ve learned from these 12 years of transformation (in no particular order). Here they are:

Lessons –

  1. Connection is the opposite of addiction
  2. Without going back, I cannot go forward
  3. Successful recovery requires 100% Me and 100% God
  4. Education is empowering
  5. Daily self-care habits are the foundation of recovery
  6. Discomfort and pain are part of the process
  7. Recovery is worth the “sacrifices” of convenience and temporary pleasure
  8. Nobody recovers alone
  9. Love satisfies what lust never will
  10. My recovery is not progressing if I learn to be sober yet self-neglectful
  11. Recovery means learning to trust 
  12. Out of my healing comes my purpose

Essential Skills –

  1. Learning to reach out to others in moments of temptation and emotional turmoil
  2. Learning to connect deeply with God
  3. Learning to connect deeply with others (accountability, romantic partner, friends)
  4. Learning to connect in a group
  5. Learning self-connection
  6. Practicing self-compassion
  7. Habitual self-care
  8. Getting professional help when needed
  9. Practicing play, laughter, fun, and relaxation
  10. Managing shame
  11. Taking full responsibility for my choices
  12. Finding daily inspiration

May those who continue to struggle find direction and hope here. Freedom from sexual addiction is possible.

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-By Forest Benedict, LMFT, SATP-C

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