A pattern I’ve observed is that we humans tend to base our sense of worth on how others have treated us. I think this tendency is wired into us from birth. We look for that approving parent to respond with excitement and adoration. Some get it, some don’t. Some get the opposite, with resulting scars. It seems we so often internalize those experiences and set our value accordingly.
What a trap this can be. What if the reality was that our value is not set by others or even by ourselves? What if the one who created us establishes our importance? Do we so easily forget that “God looked over all he had made, and he saw that it was very good” (Genesis 1:31)? God dotes over His creation. If we stopped and asked Him about our value, I wonder if He would look longingly into our eyes and soothingly say to us:
“Prized, you want to feel prized. Others did not prize you in the way you wanted or needed as a child, the way I prize you. You are my treasure. I delight in having you as my child. I prize the core of you, the inside, that others do not know, below the mask. The place where pain and raw emotion dwell, the shadows & strengths. I see it all and I know you and love you. Let me prizing you today be your anchor. Let knowing your value as you go out be a power source, even when others try to devalue you.
My child, you are worthy of love. Abide in that state today. Live out of your worthiness. Live loved. You have experienced some great pain but you are loved and you are mine. I cherish you. I hold you close to my chest. Listen to my heart beating for you. Sync your breath with mine. Let my arms fold around you. Let this love satisfy your searching soul.”
In other words: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=r-Nbt8lCJrk